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Each day covers a critical piece of Japanese dating culture. Preview clips from every module below.
Where does she fall on the spectrum? Learn to screen for compatibility from the first conversation.
Walk through her life from childhood to adulthood. The pressures she faces that you've never considered.
The confession system that governs Japanese dating. Why "no kokuhaku = no relationship" catches foreigners off guard.
When dating becomes a strategic search for marriage. How to identify if she's in "konkatsu mode."
Honne vs. tatemae. "Reading the air." Why direct Western communication often backfires.
Facial expressions, physical distance, touch norms, eye contact. She might smile while being deeply uncomfortable.
LINE etiquette, response timing, sticker usage. Reading between the lines of her text patterns.
Why "winging it" is disrespectful. The reservation mentality. How to invite her the right way.
The multi-tier café system. First date vs. second date vs. third date venue strategies.
Specific venue recommendations, red flags, alcohol, and how to end the date right.
Japanese apps vs. Western apps. Who's on which — and what that tells you about her "Type."
Screening profiles, moving from app to LINE, Instagram as a dating tool.
Why she ghosted. Recovery strategies. Kokuhaku timing — too early ruins it, too late loses her.
She said yes — now what? The dynamic shift most foreigners misunderstand.
Make sure you're a good fit
Not just theory — real experience navigating Japanese dating culture
Linguist · Certified Translator · Culture Expert
I've been where you are — confused by mixed signals, wondering why dates weren't leading anywhere, making cultural mistakes I didn't even know I was making.
As a graduate-trained linguist who speaks German, Portuguese, Spanish, and Japanese, I've spent my life studying how language and culture shape human connection. After 5+ years of dating in Japan, I learned what actually works. Now I teach how to navigate Japanese dating culture without the trial-and-error pain I went through.
Linguist · Bilingual in Japanese and English
I'm Honoha. A Japanese girl! You probably know me from the GoGen Podcast. Although I'm fully Japanese, I've spent considerable time abroad and dated seriously on both sides of the pond. I know how complex and bewildering Japanese dating culture can be for foreigners. It's another world.
B and I have discussed and analyzed and interviewed for months on end to create an incredibly informative, accurate, and actionable course to get you up to speed many times faster than you would on your own.
Testimonials
"Without B and GoGen's advice, I would have never met my Japanese fiancée! I had failed date after failed date... ghosting, 1st, 2nd, and even 3rd dates that led to nowhere. Getting access to GoGen's knowledge changed everything for me."
"This was incredible! I've learned more from GoGen about Japanese dating culture than I learned from months of dating! Failure has turned to success! I wish I had learned about GoGen sooner."
"The structure and design of this course is simply amazing. It makes it easy to internalize the Japanese and the cultural insights that go with it. Totally worth it!"
Reviews reflect experiences with GoGen's content, coaching, and course. Individual results vary.
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Your $5 directly helps us keep making episodes, bring on better guests, and build the content you actually want. This is how we stay independent.
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The full membership includes: the complete 14-Day Dating in Japan video course (14 modules, 50+ lessons), monthly live Q&A with B, monthly live Japanese lesson with Honoha, the Dating Japanese audiobook (80+ min of Pimsleur-style audio), podcast extras and bonus content, access to the members-only community, and every future course or content release. The Podcast Fan plan ($5/mo) includes the monthly livestream, podcast extras, and community access — perfect if you love the podcast but aren't looking for dating courses.
Both the monthly Q&A with B and the monthly Japanese lesson with Honoha are live video sessions. Can't make it? All sessions are recorded and available as replays in your member library within 24 hours.
None! The course is 75% cultural education, 25% language. You'll learn the essential dating-specific phrases regardless of your starting point. Already speak some Japanese? Even better — you'll learn the nuanced, contextual usage textbooks never teach.
Absolutely. The cultural principles apply whether you're planning to move to Japan, already living there, or dating Japanese women in your home country. The dating psychology and communication patterns are the same regardless of location.
The podcast gives you pieces of the puzzle in a conversational format. The membership gives you the complete system in the right order — structured modules, specific strategies for each dating stage, live feedback on your actual situations, and a community going through the same journey.
New lessons are dropping every week — the course is actively being built and growing. Your membership gives you immediate access to everything published so far, plus every new lesson as it drops. The library gets bigger every week; your price stays the same.
Yes. Cancel anytime from your account settings — no questions, no forms, no hoops. Monthly plans end at the current billing cycle. Annual plans continue through the end of your paid year.
The 14-Day course is also available as a one-time purchase for $48 — you'll own it permanently. But the membership gets you the course plus live sessions, the audiobook, community, and all future content for just $7.42/month on the annual plan. Most members find the ongoing coaching and new releases are what turn knowledge into actual results.
Perfect. Japanese dating culture is actually built for introverts. The structured, rule-based approach (kokuhaku system, formalized dates) means you don't need to rely on social instinct as much as in Western dating. Japan rewards planning and thoughtfulness over spontaneous charm.
Whether you're here to level up your dating game or just want more of the podcast — there's a plan for you.
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